Earlier this year I suffered a miscarriage at the age of 42, which was devastating. The loss of a child coupled with the hard realization that my fertility was on the decline was a difficult pill to swallow. As someone who had her first child at 39, I thought I could beat the odds.
With more women trying to conceive in their 30s and 40s, fertility, IVF, egg donors, sperm donor are no longer spoken about in hushed tones. But even though infertility is discussed more openly, the mental impact of it can still be challenging on an individual and a relationship.
This week’s StyleMama, Dr. Fenella Das Gupta, a psychotherapist who specializes in fertility issues has some helpful advice. She says first and foremost is to keep your stress levels down and your relationship healthy. ”I tell couples not to make sex into a baby-making exercise and to be conscious of keeping your fertility issues in balance with your relationship,” says Fenella.
If you are trying to get pregnant, here is what she advises:
1. Fertility does decrease as you get older. If you’re over 35 and have been trying for 6 months or under 35 and trying for a year, you need to see a fertility specialist.
2. Get a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist as the testing is more thorough and their single goal is to help you get pregnant.
3. If you are just starting to try, remember that you are fertile on either side of your ovulation.
4. Get an electronic testing kit, which is more reliable than a drug store sticks.
5. If you are over weight or under weight you need to bring your weight within the bmi index.
6. Good nutrition is key. Choose foods in the various food groups that are in the low and middle range of the gyclemic index. A good GI diet can effectively manage the amount of sugar being introduced into your bloodstream. Sugar is a key culprit in effecting ones fertility hormones. Also eat varied protein sources, including vegetable proteins.
7. Drink 8-10 glasses of water a day
8. Take 400 mcg of folic acid daily
9. Limit caffeine to 2 x 8 ounce cups a day and up to 2 glasses of wine a day
10. To date, there is no medical evidence suggesting that acupuncture is effective for curing infertility, but women swear by it. It does help with stress reduction and in that way is a useful adjunct for fertility treatments.
Home: Sonoma County
Children: 1 son who is 2-years-old
Fenella became interested in fertility issues based on her own experience. It’s a topic she is very passionate about, even though she counsels patients on other issues as well. She launched two support groups in Northern California and is a member of RESOLVE – the National Infertility Association. Currently, she is writing a book, Two Pink Lines: Getting Pregnant and Taking on Fertility Issues. She blogs about the making of the book and fertility issues on www.twopinklinesthebook.com .
How does she look so darn good?
Fenella has a few rules to looking and feeling good, which include eating a piece of chocolate everyday, washing and moisturizing daily (Her mother got her started on the routine and she’s been doing it since she was four), and working out hard enough to drip with sweat 5 days out of 7. Most importantly, Fenella makes a conscious and deliberate effort to slow down her actions and activities. She says the process is grounding and is especially helpful when interacting with others individuals.
What’s she wearing?
Barbie Tunic: Sunlight Paris
Coral Mesh Dress: Sunlight Paris.
Rose Gold Earrings: Anna Koplick
Boots: Steve madden
“Most of my clothes are from a Parisian company called Sunlight Paris. I like to wear romantic yet slightly edgy clothes such as Sunlight Paris, Anna Koplick and Sun Kim. ” – Fenella Das Gupta
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