Are you sitting at home frustrated with your life? Hate your job or the fact that you don’t have one? Want to lose weight but don’t have the time or energy? Yearning to take piano lessons but too busy chauffeuring the rest of the family around. I hear women from my generation as well as my mother’s complain of being unfulfilled and frustrated that their focus has shifted more and more from themselves to taking care of everyone else. And I’m just as guilty as the next complainer.
But why not change? Are we genetically motivated to put everyone else first or does society pressure us to place more value on our role as caretaker.
Take a look at the article and video below. It’s food for thought. This isn’t about being a career woman or stay-at-home mom. This is about recognizing that focusing on what makes you happy will not only fulfill you, but reap benefits for those who are part of your inner circle.
Do I play the martyr? Yes, totally. My husband rolls his eyes when he sees me up in the middle of the nice decorating cookies or volunteering at my daughter’s school. “Great! Mommy is going to be even more stressed out this week,” he says.
My goal in 2012 is to get off the martyr train!
A big thank you to my friend, Talya Metzer, for turning me on to this video. Take the time to watch it. It will make you want to speak up next time you are in mixed company.
Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
This is a simple book that you can read in one sitting, but has so many pearls of wisdom you’ll read it again and again. If you are a person who doesn’t have the bandwidth to focus on yourself, because you have an individual (partner, ex-partner, boss, children, parents, siblings, in-laws, friends, colleagues) in your life who is sucking too much of your emotional energy, then this is the book for you.
“In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows listeners how to heal emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are every person’s birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships.” – Barnes & Noble